My friends mean the world to me. They are my extended family and we share our ups and downs openly and fearlessly. I’m not afraid to say, I need them and my life would be less whole without them. The connection I have with them allows me to feel complete, loved, supported and accepted. Simply put, friendship = love.
I know, I talk about love in almost every friggin blog right? Well, it makes the world work. We all need it so let’s stop pretending it’s not that important. The intangibles, the connections with others, the people you hold dear and would take a bullet for, these abstract things are what matters.
According to merriam-webster, characteristics of friendship include affection, sympathy, empathy, honesty, altruism, mutual understanding and compassion, enjoyment of each other’s company, trust and the ability to be oneself, express one’s feelings and make mistakes without fear of judgement from the friend.
These characteristics span all types of relationships, family, girlfriends, spouses, kids. Accepting anything else would just be bullshit and frankly a giant waste of time. Do not accept less...EVER! If you spend time with someone who makes you feel less, who puts you down, who gossips about others you are wasting your time. This is not friendship. This is not love!
A few months ago, I was really struggling. I had been working through some pretty emotional stuff. I had not spoken with anyone about it and was really trying to process and manage it all on my own. I was with 3 friends and we were being silly and chatting endlessly, teasing one another. All of a sudden I just started to cry…
My standard disposition on any given day is positive, happy, cheerful and silly. So, they were all pretty shocked when they saw the tears falling. What they did next blew me away. They immediately stopped everything and asked me what was going on. It all started flowing out and before I knew it I told them everything. They rallied around me and hugged me and were there for me. They listened, they empathized, and in turn I felt loved, understood and accepted. They cancelled their plans for the next few hours, took me to lunch and we continued to enjoy our special time together . We had a real “therapy” session” and it meant the world to me. We all deserve to be heard, be understood and be loved unconditionally.
So, for your own sake and those who love you, don’t ever accept less… be vulnerable, be amazing, be the amazing YOU that you are!!