Screw the SHOULD

Posted on September 14, 2015 by Tamara Donofrio | 0 Comments














Change is hard! Not changing because you’re too chickenshit is even harder.  If you feel lost, alone, confused, angry, frustrated about your life, LISTEN UP!

Leave that boyfriend.  Have a baby on your own.  Run for office.  Start your own business.  Lose 50lbs.  Go back to school.  Dump gossipy loser friends.  Get help with an addiction.  Whatever it is you want, go for it!  You have the power within to make your life whatever you want.  We have all been programmed to think “OK this is how it’s supposed to be”.  Well, if it doesn’t work for you then you have to be strong enough to say NO!
I love this quote from my daughter’s favorite book, Cinderella. “Just because it has always been done, doesn’t mean that it should be done.” SO TRUE!

Yes, life is a pain in the ass when you go against the grain...against what SHOULD be done!  UGH...I hate that word.  But, it’s so worth it. Integrity is the state of being whole and undivided.  You must live your life this way to be happy.  I mean truly honestly fucking happy.  Wake up everyday and feel whole, lucky, satisfied, real, loved and alive!  If you’re turning yourself into what you SHOULD be, or what you think people want you to be, your life will continue to suck.

I used to be a follower, a yes girl, a girl that was always agreeable and did what was expected.  Then I became a mother.  A damn good mother.  A mother who puts her kids above anything else.  I decided I had to live my life with integrity and that meant making HUGE changes.  I had to leave my husband.  That may seem contradictory to some, but it was my only choice.  I couldn’t live where I couldn’t be me.  My children deserve to see a mother who is authentic, real, strong and completely her own person.  I also had to go back to work.  I had to earn a living to support them.  After being a stay at home mom, that was a shock.  I was used to seeing my babies everyday and watching over their every move.  I spent about 2 years thinking my heart would break in 2 every single day!

It was excrutiating!  I kept going. I kept believing in me!  Guess what?  My heart didn’t break in two.  It grew 100 times in size.  I become more connected to my children because I could finally be me!  The real me.  Not the people pleasing, should girl!

A badass single mom, entrepreneur.  5 years ago, I would never have believed I could have so much love, kindness, happiness and honesty in my life.

No one is in charge of your life, but you!

Now go be amazing!



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