This is the Face of a Warrior.
She’s sweet, smart, beautiful and brave, beyond words. She has endured eight surgeries with grace and courage never mind a complaint. But, a few days ago, she came to me with tears in her eyes. She’s now expressing fear and anxiety for the ﬁrst time ever. She has always been very go-with-the-ﬂow about it all, but she’s growing up emotionally and I better have my shit together so I can help her navigate through this. This is a battle she has to ﬁght for years to come and she needs to be equipped to deal with it emotionally. I need to let her be sad, scared, mad and frustrated. The goal is not to “make it better” like parents often want to do. The goal is to allow the expression, to validate the emotions, to be compassionate and to simply be present.!!! If I can navigate her through this, I can give her the tools she will need to handle most of the hurdles she will have to face in life! I believe to live a full life, to be vulnerable, to accomplish great things, to kick ass as a human, you have to stumble, fall, get your heart broken. If you have not experienced these types of things in your life, you’re probably living in protection and trying to avoid pain and suffering which is our natural response. But to truly live a full and present life we can't avoid pain and suffering, we can only develop the tools to persevere, to rise above and grow stronger!! This quote by Cheryl Strayed hits the nail on the head: "Parents teach their children how to be warriors, to give them the conﬁdence to get on the horse to ride into battle when it’s necessary to do so. If you didn’t get that from your parents, you have to teach yourself". I’m going to teach my children - it’s my job. It’s hard, it’s so damn hard. I can’t make this go away for her, I can only give her the tools. The tools she will need. She is a WARRIOR and so are you. Now Go... Be Amazing!